One thing that stresses me out more than anything else as a parent is my kids not listening to me. I mean how hard is it to listen when I tell my oldest to come to the bathroom so I can fix her hair. Or why can’t she stop being mean to her little sister?!?😡 I just want to pull my hair out or scream at the top of my lungs sometimes… I’ve actually tried the last one.. They listen for sure then, but it just makes an unpleasant spirit fill the room, and that’s not my goal as a mama. My goal as a mama is to teach them to honor their father and mother and to serve God all the days of their life. I want a peaceful, calming spirit in my home and want to be a positive example to them. Do you want the same? Keep reading to learn how to get your kids to listen with ONE word!
Are you dealing with this same issue in your home? Let’s face it, it’s hard for kids to listen sometimes. With distractions like video games, television, sports, homework, and extracurricular activities, hearing mom or dad tell them something is probably the last thing they want to hear. Kids are pros at selective hearing. 😀
If you want to stop yelling so much at your kids, what should you do instead? Count 1, 2, 3 so they have time to listen?! Well, occasionally that is effective, but I get so tired of counting to 3. I’m sure you do too, if you tried that one.
Training Your Kids to Listen with One Word
Okay, so I decided that I would train my kids to listen to me when I said a specific word. For my family, we decided on the word,” LISTEN.” Here is how it works:
- First, when you say the word, “LISTEN,” they must listen immediately or there will be consequences.
- Next, when you first introduce this to them, sit them down and explain it and tell them the consequences and why you are doing this.
- You decide the consequence and they should always know that is what will happen EVERY SINGLE time they do not listen.
- You must FOLLOW THROUGH and do not EVER give them a second chance to listen. This is what messes it up. If you don’t follow through once, next time they won’t listen to you. Then, the next time they won’t listen even more, and so on.
- Finally, remind them of this new rule everyday. Adults need reminders sometimes, so kids especially need reminders.
Well, you may wonder how is this going in my home? Let’s see… for the first few days, my kids had to receive the consequence more so than they would like. It was a learning experience for sure. They had to learn that mama was serious and I wasn’t going to let anything slide. Then, things started getting better. If I said, “Come eat dinner,” and they didn’t come. I would say, “Come eat dinner” again, followed by “LISTEN.” They actually started listening better. They would even remind each other what was going to happen. Now, I do want you to know, I do not yell it, unless they are completely across the house and can’t hear me. Even then, I try to go to them and tell them what I want them to do, because they are so far away and could possibly not hear me still.
We’ve been using this strategy for a couple of months now. It works most of the time. If I get busy and forget to remind them everyday of it, I will see it fail more so because they have forgotten about it. I’m not perfect by no means. Life gets hectic and I forget sometimes. It’s never too late to pick it back up and remind your kids again. It’s amazing that one word and a little patience can save your sanity! Try this strategy in your home and share how it goes in the comments below! You may also like these two related posts, 10 Tips to Being a Better Mommy or 10 Scriptures for the Stressful Mommy Moments.
And… I love hearing your ideas… so maybe you use a different approach that could possibly help me or another momma?!? Feel free to share below! I would love to hear from you. God Bless!